Woman Skips Friend’s Wedding Reception Because She Didn’t Think She’d Have ‘Fun’

A woman is contemplating whether or not she’s in the wrong for skipping her close friend’s wedding reception because it wasn’t her “vibe.”

In a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum, the wedding guest, 24, explained that while she attended the bride’s church ceremony over the weekend, she drove home instead of heading to the hotel reception afterward because she didn’t think she’d “have much fun.”

“Here’s the thing, I’ve always loved very fancy outdoor weddings, like at a really nice venue in the mountains, beach, a nice ranch, things like that. Hers was in a hotel ballroom, which is more typical and not really my vibe,” the woman wrote. “I’ve been to those more typical weddings before, and know that I don’t tend to find them that fun.”

Once the ceremony concluded, the woman “quickly” told the bride, 23, that she was going to skip her reception but encouraged her to “have fun” without her. Feeling “pretty upset” by her friend’s absence on her special day, the bride complained to their mutual friends about it.

Later in the night, the bride’s girlfriends who attended the reception texted the absentee friend that missing such an important celebration was “rude,” saying that she was “being selfish.”

The Redditor said, “I honestly think people are making it a bigger deal than it really is.”

The majority of commenters determined that the bride’s friend was “the a——” in this scenario, arguing that “when you care for someone, you show up for someone,” regardless of whether or not it’s ideal.

“It’s not about you,” the top comment reads in part. “Check the main character energy and show up for the people in your life — otherwise, do not be surprised when people in your life stop showing up for you.”

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Many people said that the wedding guest was “spoiled” and “unbelievably self-centered and immature” for having fancier standards and for disregarding the fact that the couple likely already paid for her reception meal.

“YTA (you’re the a——), especially if you RSVPd you would be there,” one person wrote. “They charge for the number of guests. You owe her an apology, especially using the excuse, ‘It’s not my vibe because I only like fancy weddings.’ Spoiler alert, it’s not for you, it’s for the marrying couple to celebrate with friends and family. So dumb, and your friend deserves better friends.”

Another individual commented, “When you RSVPd for this wedding, that undoubtedly included both ceremony and reception. This means the couple paid for your seat, food and drink at the reception and you wasted their money.”