Sister-in-Law Refuses to Let Bride Post Wedding Photos Because Her Daughter Is in Them

A bride’s decision to have her niece serve as her flower girl backfired when it came time to share her wedding photos.

The newlywed woman explained in a post on Reddit’s “Wedding Planning” forum that her sister-in-law is refusing to let her post wedding photos on social media because her daughter appears in them and she wants to protect her privacy. Because the little girl was the flower girl, “she’s in nearly all” of the wedding party photos.

“I basically can’t share anything,” the bride wrote. “She doesn’t want any pictures of her daughter on social media, not even with her face blurred or covered.”

Had the bride known before the ceremony that her new sister-in-law would be blocking her from sharing wedding photos online, she “would’ve done separate group shots” without her niece. Because this “was not mentioned before the wedding” and she can’t go back in time, the bride is now stuck with the only option of trying to find alternative ways to remove the flower girl from the professional pictures.

“I even tried using an app to remove her, but it looks terrible,” the bride said. “I totally get wanting to protect your child’s privacy, but this is really disappointing.”

The woman noted that she “spent a lot of money” on the wedding photographer, and was “so excited” to publicly share the photos with her loved ones. Now, she’s unsure how to handle the situation while still respecting her sister-in-law’s wishes.

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“I’m wondering if I also need to tell our friends, photographer and extended family not to post any pictures that include her either,” she wrote.

In the comments section, Redditors suggested that the bride and her sister-in-law should have another conversation in order to reach a compromise. They said it was unfair of the sister-in-law to have “have no viable solution in mind” and such a strict rule without raising her concerns before the nuptials.

“I think it’s absolutely ridiculous to be this intense about not having photos of your child and letting them be photographed by a professional all day long and be in posed shots,” one person wrote. “It’s fine to have the boundary, but then she should not have allowed her daughter to be in those photos, be the flower girl, or expressed her concern to you ahead of time. Either post the photos with the daughter blurred or send the SIL (sister-in-law) a bill for your wedding photography because I imagine you wouldn’t have spent those thousands of dollars if you knew you wouldn’t be allowed to show those photos to anyone.”

Another person similarly commented, “SIL can either pay for her daughter to be professionally photoshopped out or she will have to deal with the daughter’s face being blurred out. That’s her fault for just now mentioning it. Blurring her face/any identifiable features is protecting her privacy enough. If your SIL was that concerned, she would’ve mentioned it before.”

The bride updated her post to share that she followed the Reddit users’ advice, resulting in “a fair compromise” that works for everyone even if it’s “not the perfect solution.”

“It’s all resolved now. Things got a little blown out of proportion,” she wrote. “My SIL originally wanted her daughter professionally edited out of the photos, but once it became clear that wasn’t a realistic option, she agreed to a full-body blur instead. We’re not planning to share many photos with her daughter in them anyway, but for the ones we do, we’ll use a heavy blur so she’s not identifiable.”