Social Gathering Turns Awkward After Mom of 7 Reveals Her Massive Social Media Following

A mom of seven turned to the Reddit community for advice following an unexpectedly tense moment at a party where she had hoped simply to support a friend.

She explained that she normally avoided gatherings where she didn’t know anyone, but she made an exception because her friend, who she referred to as “L,” really wanted to see a guy she liked. “She really likes a guy… so after some begging, I agreed,” the poster wrote, noting that she entered the night with good intentions.

Once they arrived, the poster said she spent some time alone while L spoke with the guy she liked, who she called “J.” That’s when a man approached her and struck up a conversation that immediately took a surprising turn.

“He asked what I do for a living and I said that I have an art business,” she explained, sharing that the man turned out to be the host of the party and a close friend of J. She added, “Without asking any follow-up questions, he immediately started talking about how if ‘I’m not harnessing the power of social media’ my business is doomed to fail.”

She recounted how the host launched into a lengthy lecture about marketing strategies, even though she had attempted to clarify her experience. “I tried to explain that I do use social media but he cut me off,” she wrote, describing how he talked over her about content strategy, SEO and online growth.

“He went on and on,” she added, noting that the monologue felt far longer than it likely was. She said she stood there listening because “he really wasn’t giving me time to reply to anything he was saying.”

By the time he finished, a few other party guests had gathered around and were listening. Feeling frustrated, she decided to confront the situation in a calm but pointed way. “I asked him, ‘if you are so successful, could I see your Instagram page so I can learn some more tips?’” she wrote.

When he showed her his account, she saw that he had “around 20k followers.” Then he asked to see hers and added that if she had potential, he could take her out to dinner and “teach me his secrets.”

She showed him her account, which she explained had “over 150k followers,” and said some nearby guests asked to see as well. They complimented her artwork and even chuckled at the difference in their audience sizes.

She said the man became visibly uncomfortable, “mumbled something,” and walked away. He then went to L and J, and shortly after, L came over furious. “L came over to me upset, saying I embarrassed her for ‘bragging’ about my follower count and that I should just leave,” she wrote.

The poster emphasized that bragging was never her intention. “I really don’t like to brag about my followers,” she explained, saying she was proud but grounded about her online presence. She acknowledged that she “was just really annoyed in the moment” after being talked over repeatedly.

Later that night, L texted her again, saying she should have ended the conversation earlier or found a way to show she already knew what she was doing. According to L, letting the man continue made the moment more embarrassing for him and, in turn, for her.

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The poster shared that she apologized to L, though she now felt uncertain about whether she had handled the situation poorly. She added that the party host had begun giving L “the cold shoulder,” only intensifying her friend’s frustration. Still, her other friends reacted very differently. Some of them “laughed and said I did nothing wrong and that he was the one trying to brag.”

Now torn between conflicting opinions, she asked the Reddit community whether she should have approached the moment with more tact or if the man had created his own embarrassment. As one commenter put it, “YOU didn’t embarrass this guy. He embarrassed himself.”