Regretful mom laments that ‘gentle parenting’ was a mistake: ‘I raised anxious, entitled kids’

In the caption, Williams said she once believed she was the poster parent for calm, conscious child-rearing.

“I validated every emotion, processed feelings extensively, explained every boundary, compromised on things, avoided harsh punishments,” she wrote. “I thought I was doing it right.”

Then her kids got older — and she claims the “gentle” cracks started to show.

One child became, in her words, “anxious about everything (even choosing a snack), insecure in their abilities, entitled (everything’s up for debate), [and] emotionally dysregulated.” 

The other swung the opposite direction, turning into a chronic people-pleaser who swallowed their feelings and withdrew from everyone.

The realization devastated her. “I cried a lot,” Williams admitted. “I had tried SO hard to do everything right… to do things different from what I had growing up.”

That’s when she had her lightbulb moment: the issue wasn’t “gentle parenting” itself — it was that she’d slipped into something else entirely.

“I wasn’t actually doing gentle parenting… I had slipped into permissive parenting without realizing it,” she wrote, adding that many well-meaning moms and dads make the same mistake.

Williams says she now practices authoritative parenting — the “research-backed” blend of “high warmth” plus “high structure,” meaning clear boundaries, firm limits and natural consequences instead of endless discussions.

And the results, she claims, came shockingly fast. “Soon I saw: less anxiety over decisions, more confidence trying new things, less negotiating/entitlement” and “better regulation.”

The video struck a nerve with parents across social media, many of whom wondered if “gentle parenting” had quietly morphed into a free-for-all in their own homes.

One commenter broke it down bluntly: “gentle” parenting isn’t the same as “permissive” parenting. “Gentle parents still hold hard boundaries,” they wrote. 

Another added: “Gentle parenting is simply not beating or yelling at your kids when you can’t handle them and I will stand by that. Doesn’t mean you’re letting them do whatever they want like some of these people think.”

“Gentle parenting IS authoritative parenting and I will scream this from the rooftops,” one other user declared.

Williams jumped into the thread to clear the air, defending her intentions: “There’s a REASON gentle parenting is in quotation marks… the point is to show how easily it is to slip into permissive parenting, especially when life happens.” 

She added a pointed reminder for the community: “Gentle parenting community? Do better. It’s about people and kids, not shaming or criticism because someone who had good intentions slipped.”